What marriage means to me.
Marriage is so beautiful. Actually I think it's the wedding part that's beautiful the actual marriage isn't that cool. just kidding. How great is it that we as human beings can have a mate, a partner, a supporter, a lover, someone to make me food and check for burglars in the laundry room? It's pretty great. It's pretty powerful and overwhelming to think about committing every aspect of my life, for the rest of my life, to one person. I can't wait to do that. I can't wait to have one huge ceremony, one huge party celebrating my choice in a commitment to another being. So all i need now is about a $50,000 wedding budget, a great honeymoon vacation to every Disney theme park across the world, and of course a husband. I can do all of this and still validate it as a marriage. Do i really need the government's permission. i don't give a shit.
What has marriage become? its pretty sad. I can't believe that people feel the need to have the government's blessing so that they can get married. gay, straight, white, asian, dinosaur, Ke$ha, it doesn't matter! It makes me physically ill knowing that people pay money to the government, take a blood test, and jump through so many hoops to change their last name just so they can have a piece of official government issued paper that says they are married. modern day marriage is a joke. The idea that a couple should prepare a prenuptial agreement in the event that their marriage doesn't work out is absurd. Divorce's are even more absurd; spending thousands of dollars and fighting over who gets what just because the government acknowledged the two of you as obligated to each other. A modern marriage in America is a business partnership nothing else.
I think it would be great if we could all trust our significant other enough to know that their word and promise of commitment is enough. which FINALLY brings me to the subject of this post; LOVE.
I love, "love". Not only is it this crazy feeling that lets you experience every emotion in your soul all at one time, it is also an action and a choice. I'm not just talking about marriage any more, weather it's family, friend, or spouse, getting to the point in any of those relationships where you can say you love them is the most compassionate and selfless act in the universe. To me saying "i love you" doesn't just encompass my attraction and interest to them, but it's letting them know that i CHOOSE to maintain a relationship with them despite whatever flaw or shitty circumstance. I CHOOSE to put them before my selfish ambitions and make their goals my goals. some times i'm bad at it, but that's how we learn. Sometimes we fail at being lovers, and get side tracked with our selfish ways, but that's how your love for someone gets stronger, and that's how you learn to love better.
how great is it to be loved? to know someone will support you in all your decisions, someone who wants to see you grow and succeed and longs to better your life. Someone who will honor you and protect you. Someone who despite your nasty habits and character flaws wants to help you grow and accomplish great things.
the definition of love brings me to tears.
Love is big.
Love is overwhelmingly massive.
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